Welcome to Sit with Ness
Where spirituality and psychology meet to help you heal from within.
You’ve spent years carrying the weight of others, feeling like the glue that holds everything together. You’re the one who listens, the one who fixes, the one who understands. But who holds space for you?
It’s time to turn inward. To break the patterns that have kept you stuck. To reconnect with the parts of you that have been buried under expectations and self-doubt.
Healing isn’t about becoming someone new—it’s about coming home to yourself. And I’m here to guide you through that process.
Ready to begin? Book your free consultation below.
Where spirituality & psychology meet
Meet Vanessa
Hi, I’m Vanessa Chapman.
Holistic Mindfulness Coach | M.A. Clinical Psychology (In Progress)
I know what it feels like to carry burdens that aren’t yours. To feel responsible for others’ emotions. To question your worth, your voice, your path.
My journey led me to blend spirituality with psychology—to bridge the gap between deep, intuitive healing and evidence-based practices. My coaching isn’t about just talking; it’s about transformation. Through shadow work, inner child healing, and generational trauma work, I help women break free from cycles that no longer serve them.
Healing is a process of remembering who you are. I’d be honored to walk this path with you.
freeing you from toxic patterns & connecting you back to you
You’ve always been the therapist of the family, the mediator, the glue, the protector.
The one who people turn to for support, the one who smooths over conflict, the one who absorbs the emotions of those around you.
You’ve carried the weight of responsibility whether in your family, your relationships, or your community but somewhere along the way, you lost yourself.
Does this sound like you?
Maybe you’ve started questioning everything:
Who am I when I’m not taking care of everyone else?
Why do I keep attracting the same patterns in my relationships?
Why do I feel disconnected from myself, even though I’ve done so much “inner work”?
What This Space Offers You
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A Bridge Between Psychology & Spirituality
Healing isn’t just about mindset work; it’s about releasing the subconscious patterns that keep you stuck. We integrate psychology-backed techniques with deep spiritual work like shadow healing, inner child connection, and generational trauma healing to help you break cycles and reclaim yourself.
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“The Worthiness Trap”
If you were raised to be the peacekeeper, the overachiever, or the self-sacrificing nurturer, you’ve likely learned that your worth is tied to how much you give. In this space, we unravel the conditioning that tells you that love must be earned and help you step into a life where your needs, desires, and boundaries matter.
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Emotional Regulation & Nervous System Healing
Years of people-pleasing and emotional caretaking take a toll on your body. If you constantly feel on edge, burnt out, or emotionally drained, we’ll work on somatic healing, boundary-setting, and nervous system regulation to help you feel safe in your own body and emotions again.
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Rebuilding Self-Trust & Self-Identity
When you’ve spent your life adapting to others, it’s easy to feel disconnected from your true self. Through our work together, we’ll help you rebuild self-trust, redefine who you are outside of your roles, and cultivate a deep sense of self-worth that isn’t dependent on external validation.
This is for you if…
You’re going through a spiritual awakening and feel emotionally overwhelmed, lost, or untethered.
You’ve always been the caretaker or “therapist” in your family or relationships and are realizing how much that has drained you.
You feel like you’re doing the work but keep running into the same patterns of self-doubt, toxic relationships, or people-pleasing.
You struggle to set boundaries and prioritize your own needs without guilt.
You’re ready to break free from generational cycles and step into a new way of being—but you need guidance and support.
Our Services
1:1 Holistic Coaching
For the woman who’s been the strong one, the therapist of the family, the peacemaker.
The Women’s Circle
Coming Soon
The Inner Work Starter Pack
Free Guide: Not ready to work together yet?
Start where you are with this free guide created to support your journey inward.
“It is so hard to find someone to work with. I have gone through countless therapists and coaches. Vanessa saw me for me. She held space for me in ways that no other therapist/coach could.”
-Joyce
